How to Forgive Someone in A Life of Anti-mainstream

۩۞۩ سْــــــــــــــــــمِ اﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم ۩۞۩

"In the name of Allah, most merciful and most benefict."

Assalamu'alaikum Warahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh

       Hello guys, hm..me again. I'm here with a new topic. But now we're talking seriously because I have a motivational speech of mine. Been mad with -asam lambung- so sad have to go home earlier at witir time:(. Ok, time flies so I'll start my speech..with now.

       Guys, have you been wondering, at some point of your life, you've been hurt by the words or actions of another person. Unfortunately those hurts often stay with you. If you're holding on anger instead of forgiving...then it's probably hurting you the most. Well, I have some steps how to forgive someone. But I'll tell you a story first.

       My speech tonight is not simply about me, but also being different. I have chosen this topic because..tonight my fears are running out inside my head again. 'Those' voices are still playing inside my head. So I don't want anyone of you got some problem like me.
You-know-what guys, life is the anti-mainstream one. Everything changes. The weather changes, year changes, time changes, day changes, the age changes. But seems like everybody around me...have no change. That's why I said life is the anti-mainstream one.
I think, it all started when I was 16th years old in my 11th grade of high school. That was about the time that I started to observe people's behaviour in a new class. There was me, talking with 7 guys but I was not paying attention. Then I suddenly said, "You know guys, Im pretty disappointed with your 'adult' words." I knew they were talking about me, my bad. They were laughing at that time.

       I always thought that being an adult was a lot different from being a kid. But for me, everyone seemed to behave they were still teenagers. They were bullying each other. Nobody seemed to be outstanding in any way. and still, at the age 17th of mine, there was no change. Looks like, they don't dare to be different. They enjoy theirs. They were laughing at that time, I was wondering if they will get laughed in soon. Well me hm..I'd rather being different. What does being different mean? Being different means..being willing to take a chance, asking why, and making your own track. at least, being the person that you were meant to be. I do believe that everyone is born unique. Well sounds a good sense. lol.

       Everyone wants to be happy in life. Want to life a perfect life. We want that great job or a successful business. We want to be married to Mr. Right or Mrs Perfect. We want to have great kids. We want to have friends that stick by us come rain or shine. We want to be able to have all the material things life has to offer and have all our problems just disappear. In Indonesian, humans are "banyak maunya". But not for me. I'm happy with all the things that I have. Enjoying every second on it makes me feel a little deep calm. I'm not that a rich woman. I'm not that a man who lives his perfect life. I'm not that beautiful girl that always looks at mirror. But I'm me. I have my own life. Guys, you all may say that life is hard, life is difficult. Everybody wishes for good life. It may be at different levels. One person may define a good life one way and another may describe it another way. For one person a good life may be just having three meals a day and a roof over their head. For another it may be having a huge mansion and a couple of million dollars in the bank. Depends on what mind the wishes come from. In life you will have difficulties to get anything you want. It is very rare to get anything in life without some degree of effort. Only if you win the lottery will you have everything without effort, and even then you would have had to go out and buy the lottery ticket anyway so it's not free at all.
Life is hard, seeing awkwardly for everytime you get bullied.

       I am not saying that you are not justified in feeling the way that you feel. I know you have had it tough at times. I know that at times you feel that it's all very confusing and just too hard. I mean you have worked very hard. You've done all that you possibly could in your life whether it is at work or at home. But things just don't seem to have worked out as well as you had planned or hoped. It all just seems to have gone wrong and you don't know or understand how or why.

But that's okay. It's life, face it. It's normal. That's what being human is all about. That's what life is all about. Life is hard. Accept that.

       Here:
"You make mistakes, just like everybody else. You're not perfect, just like everybody else."

       I always hold my perception that, I can make it better, in my own way. If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
Accepting that life is hard comes with accepting that you have the responsibility to make it better. Not only do you have the responsibility to make it better, you have the ability and the power to make it better. Learn how to raise, how to turn around, how to improve your self esteem, how to gain your self-confidence, and how to gain some 'extraskills' to beat your enemies with some good expectations. good achievements.

       You see, the only person you have any control over is yourself. So why have you gone mad in times. It's not a day's job. Take care of yourself, take care of everyone's feeling. Embracing forgiveness offers many benefits. I think..it's time to learn more about forgiveness and the steps you need to take to truly forgive someone who's wronged you.

Forgiving Yourself 

Before you figure out how do I forgive someone, you need to learn how to forgive yourself for hurting someone else.
Tip #1 – Begin Accepting Your Flaws – First, you need to begin accepting your flaws. Realize that you're not perfect, but that's okay. Everyone has flaws. Everyone makes mistakes. You are continuing to grow as a person, so you need to accept your mistakes and then, forgive yourself.
Tip #2 – Realize That You’re Still a Good Person – Even if you messed up, realize that you’re still a good person. Don’t let guilt or shame eat you up inside.

Tip #3 – Ask to Allah – Allah is your home. Ask Allah, and Allah will forgive your mistakes. :")

Steps for Forgiving Someone Else 

How do you forgive someone? If you’re having a tough time figuring out how to truly forgive someone, the following steps may prove helpful.
Step #1 – Be Inspired By Others Who Have Forgiven – If you're trying to forgive someone, be inspired by others who have forgiven individuals who hurt them. When you see others forgive, it's easier for you to let go and forgive someone who has injured you.
Step #2 – Learn to Be Empathetic – While you may never agree with the way the other person hurt you, it helps to learn to be empathetic towards that person. Think about what it's like being in that person's shoes. When you learn to be empathetic, you may understand why that person acted the way he did, even if it hurt you.
Step #3 – Eliminate Negative Feelings – Eliminate the negative feelings that you feel towards the person who hurt you. Negative feelings will only hurt you, so release them so you can begin moving forward.
Step #4 – Ask for Help if Needed – In some cases, it may be difficult to figure out how to forgive someone on your own, especially of the person hurt you repeatedly or the hurts were very traumatic. You may need some help to work through your feelings. A professional therapist can help you through the process of acknowledging your feelings and working through the process of forgiveness.

       In closing I just wanna say don't get that over-think so bad. Forgive yourself, forgive someone else. Your life is a beautiful one. Enjoy the every second on it. Eventough you have got those anti-mainstream difficulties, life goes on..steady as like as beating drum. That's all. This article written when I'm -in that- good-emotional-minded, well it runs my head sometimes,lol. Ok, Thanks^^. Hope it works:).

Wassalmu'alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, have a good night.